I just got back with from a meeting with the new pastor of the church that didn’t want to interview me.
They want me for a youth leader position.
My impulse was to say, “Bite me. Find a different woman to be your bitch.” But I reminded myself that the pastor had nothing to do with how I was treated by the call committee. I’d heard through the grapevine that he feels that I’m a “shoo in” for the position, and that made me feel a bit bucky (how in the hell would he know I was a “shoo in” if he’d never even talked to me?!). But: I went.
Turns out all my main concerns with the position (it’s not a pastoral call, it’s part time, there are no benefits) are mostly negotiable. He’s even 100% OK with me leading worship from time to time. He’s already spoken to the bishop, anticipating that I would want this to be a pastoral call, and the bishop has told him that he would OK that if I want the position.
Which leaves me in a quandry.
I don’t have any particular draw or drive to youth ministry. I loved teaching confirmation (and I’d get to head up the Confirmation program in this position), but when it comes to being a “rah rah guitar-playing youth pastor” I’m pretty much left feeling cold inside. I’m not interested in thinking up trips, servant events, activites, dances, games, etc. I’m not particularly interested in hanging out with teenagers for a significant amount of my professional time.
But there’s just something about the position that has captured my attention. I’m not sure if it’s captured it only because I’m so desperate to be a pastor again that I’ll do anything, or if I’m truly feeling a sense of call for the position. And I’m still FAR more interested in the position at my own congregation, the one I filled in a ton of this summer. I’ve started falling in love with those people, started remembering how sweet it is to be a pastor and be brought into that sort of relationship with people.
So: I don’t know. I asked for the weekend to think it over. One place they’d HAVE to step up to even allow us to consider it is the pay rate and the benefits package. It pays $13,000 a year. At that rate of pay, we’d NEVER be able to move out of Mom and Dad’s, since it’s significantly less than what I make now, and we can’t move out on what I’m bringing home now. I don’t think any of us can face the thought that this little arrangement we’ve got going is permanent.
So I don’t know…